Changing regimes of manners and emotions: from disciplining to informalizing

Abstract

In this chapter, I outline changes in the regimes of manners and emotions in the West between the fifteenth and the twenty-first century. I will use the material and perspective developed by Norbert Elias in The Civilizing Process, and extend Elias's own investigation through to the end of the twentieth century. By studying manners books, Elias uncovered evidence of long-term changes in social codes as well as in people's psychic makeup. According to his theory, the dynamic momentum of these directional processes derives from ‘the increasing division of functions under the pressure of competition’ (2000: 433), tending to integrate increasing numbers of people in expanding and increasingly dense networks of interdependency. He showed these changes in power and dependency relationships to be connected with changes in sources of power and identity, in competition for status and a meaningful life, and also with changes in how the manners people of different class, sex or age showed a demand for respect or fear of the loss of. With Elias, I understand changes in the code of manners and feeling to illuminate changes in relationships between individuals and groups (social classes, sexes and generations – sociogenesis) as well as psychic processes within people, i.e. in how individuals manage their emotions and ‘relate to themselves’ (psychogenesis).